That Blessed Arrangement

I'm getting married to the BEST guy (yay!) and I'm planning a wedding (boo!). As atheists the subject of a wedding ceremony is a difficult one. While I want some amount of sweetness and bawling in front of our friends and family, sappy is so not us. In other words, I don't want to hear the words "blessed" or "cherish" at my wedding, nor do I want any object symbolizing me, my fiance or us as a couple (think sand, candles, etc.) So what do you do when you don't know where to start? Well, you google it and find nothing and then you make a cup of tea, crawl into bed and think about which poor friend you're going to make write and perform this thing. Sucker....